The Basic B*tch

There’s the “basic boring” one; she keeps it simple, down to the earth. She doesn’t need all the “extra” in her life to feel whole, secure, and alive. I am redefining the “basic boring b*tch”, she lives without the manicures & pedicures, without makeup, no extravagant self pleasure rituals, without the roses in every photo and every corner of her “pleasure temple.” She shows up in a cotton dress barefoot and centered in her womb, yes she may be “boring and basic” but without the judgement & criticism she is a sovereign and open woman. Not needing anything or anyone to validate her; or to make her feel whole; no man providing or pleasuring her; no amount of lace, silk, or satin will satisfy her need for nature. She needs the dirt, sweat, water, the sun, the moon, the animals, the trees……

She is simply connected to the earth and her own body in ways that fulfill her more than red lipstick, five star hotels, crystals, and quick clitoral orgasms. Boring to her is finally validating her ownself without needing all of the likes, perfect looking home, expensive clothes, or the perfect looking esthetic. This is all great looking on the outside, the “extra fluff,” the layers and layers of disguise to hide behind. All of the “extra” is distraction from her true nature. In the era of “Goddess, Priestess, and Queen” we think pleasure (which is just extra) is the way. That’s just more distraction, of what’s hiding underneath. Without coming back to the basic, to the nothingness; without stripping away all of who she “thinks” she is there is no true receptivity to pleasure and desire. Chasing more to only stay feeling unfulfilled and empty.

Boring is coming back home to self, before all of the stories and identities. Boring is stripping away her ego and attachments to comfort. Boring is finally feeling at ease in her body, finally feeling a secure nervous system; slowing down and not chasing the next thrill or instant gratification. Boring is rather being naked in quiet nature with no one around; than being naked in a circle of people all touching themselves, with no awareness of leaky energy. Boring is prioritizing the simplicity of life, the beauty and love already there without seeking or striving for. She is basic and simple; fulfilled being in her own skin with eyes closed listening to the sound of the ocean; singing and howling to the moon; sleeping with the stars; and smelling like dirt and sweat. The basic woman comes home within herself, she’s as is. Trusting that wherever she is, she is at home; because home is within her womb.

We judge the woman for being “basic” or “boring”, seeming less than or not good enough. We compare her to others and stay in a cycle of collapse or chasing. I am here to give you full permission to be basic and boring. How can you embody basic and boring, redefining it and embracing this part of you? Drop the judgement and see how this part of you is welcome and accepted in so many different ways than you tell yourself. No more fluff, no more excess, no more disassociating from your essence and truth. Come back down into the womb and here you will discover all that you need.

I am a basic boring woman. I receive pleasure from feeling the wind in my sweaty hair. My heart opens to my own sensations within. My validation comes from the ground beneath my feet. My desires are in the ocean. I howl and growl with deep slow orgasms without high sensation toys, ropes, or costumes. My turn on is in my own breath and the light of the moon on my skin. My home is in the world of life and death.